Communication is quite important in this stressed, speedy and high-tech arena. But with all that we need to listen to others as well. Here are some routine habits of good listeners,
They don’t interrupt
If you’re talking, you can’t really listen. Let your partner say what’s on his mind freely and finish his own sentences. It can be difficult at times, especially if the person is emotional or you really want to get your point in. But the less he speaks, the less information you have ask the person when he pauses.
They resist the urge to offer solutions
If someone is talking about a problem, refrain from doling out advice. Being an active listener means you’re allowing your friend to get out his emotions in a healthy way, without trying to fix the problem. If he wants to hear your opinions, he’ll ask for them.
They ensure that questions don’t steer the conversation off topic
When you realize that a conversation has gone off-topic, steer it back to the original one. Apologize and remind your friend where she was in telling you her story
They show empathy
Act happy when the speaker is jovial or sad when he is talking about something somber. Put yourself in the speaker’s shoes to let yourself feel what it’s like to be him in the moment. By showing that you’re feeling what the speaker is feeling, you’re being an effective listener. This doesn’t mean, though, that you have to agree with everything he says.
Don’t make assumptions or jump to conclusions about what the speaker is saying. Otherwise, your preconceived notions may make you miss something important. As soon as you’ve made a judgment, you’ve compromised your effectiveness at being a good listener. Take in everything he’s saying. Turn off your inner voice and put aside your opinions and beliefs so you can hear what’s being spoken to you.